Psychologist In Relations

What's a harmonious relationship? How do you build a close relationship? What steps have been taken in the development of the relationship between men and women A woman? Why is personal relationships causing problems?

Conditional stages of development

1. Individuality

Potential partners are still in a relationship. They live separately. They don't deepen each other's concerns and experiences. Trying to look at each other as much as possible. Sometimes they meet, they start writing or they rarely get called. Their lives are intersected only in certain separate locations, and they both feel separate and independent.

2. merger

It is a period of intense and passionate love, jealousy, happiness and suffering. Partners want to spend as much time together as possible. They share with each other almost everything they have on the shower. Build in each other ' s attention and gradually loses their borders " together " . At this stage, they may even notice " mystical " coincidences and premonitions, such as one partner just thought about another, and he's already calling him on the phone.

3. Autonomy

Through a phase of mutual enthusiasm and swallowing, it is time that one (or two partners at the same time) becomes closely involved in such a merger. They want to have their own space, their free time, their business and interests. Relationships are being transformed so that within the " We " alliance, there is a growing tendency to sound like " I " . However, such a union of partners is far from falling apart and there is no distance, and on the contrary, relations are enriched by something that everyone brings to them from their autonomous journey of life.

Possible issues in relations

Psychological problems may arise at every stage of the development of relations. Their roots are often found at an early age. Some people, through a painful merger with one of their parents as a child, are all avoid this merger with partner♪ They maintain a separate relationship, no one close to themselves, so they maintain a sense of security. Inside, they may be concerned with the various fears that arise in the rapprochement (which on the side may look not as fear but as a strong and highly independent position). For example, fear of being absorbed, depressed by a power partner. ♪ ♪